Today we continue our study series on the Titus 2 wife. I know we took a little break, but we will be back with this series every Friday. I am a little under the weather today, so I am having a hard time focusing, so this will be a little shorter post than normal.
How did your assignment from week two go? I’ll be honest, it was a tough conversation to have… It is hard to hear from your spouse ways that you have hurt them, but I know it was productive because you can’t change what you don’t know you are doing wrong.
Today we are going to talk about gossiping. Our verse says we are not to be malicious gossips. I struggle in this area. I don’t intend to gossip, but sometimes, I catch myself saying things I shouldn’t have. Maybe that’s why I am having such a hard time focusing to write this, because it is something I struggle with.
So first, let’s define “malicious,” because I think it is important. Malicious is defined in the dictionary as “intended to do harm.” There are lots of synonyms of this word including: spiteful, mean, nasty, hurtful, cruel and unkind. Paul didn’t just write “not gossips” he chose to include this word. This is saying something about someone that you know you shouldn’t. Something that you know will hurt them or their reputation.
There are lots of different types of gossip. I think it is important to know these types so we can recognize when we do them. We will discuss the types I feel are the biggest offenders, but the full list will be in the study guide.
First, there is slander. This is spreading rumors or lies about a person to purposely cause damage. I was a Journalism major in college, so we studied slander a lot. In written word, it is called libel. As a journalist, you can actually get in a lot of trouble for libel. The key to slander is it is done maliciously, like we talked about above.
Dishing the dirt is probably the gossip I engage in most. This is sharing information you just learned. The intent is not directly to cause damage, but it could hurt the person’s reputation if it continues to spread. I talked about this in the video for today. I don’t know why I have this urge to tell people what is going on in my day, but I do. It isn’t necessarily harming anyone, but it could. And, it also isn’t really helping anyone either.
This week, I am really going to be evaluating what I am going to say before I say it. And, like I said in the video, I’m not really sure what that will look like in day to day life, but I am going to put a little more thought into what I am saying prior to saying it.